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Mystified by monogamy? Lost in the lingerie aisle? Confused by kinks or struggling with sex in general? Our resident agony aunt Prudence offers answers to PRUDE readers’ problems, to help direct and soothe, or at least make you laugh…
Q. My boyfriend and I are both bi, but had never slept with someone of our own gender. As we were getting more serious, I thought we should experiment a bit more with bi experiences, so said we should be open for a bit so he could try sleeping with guys and I could try sleeping with girls. My boyfriend IMMEDIATELY went and shagged not a dude, but another girl. Did he cheat on me, or was he just exploiting a loophole?
A. If the terms and conditions were vague, then he very literally exploited a loophole. I get that it probably wasn’t what you were expecting, but sexuality isn’t a tap that can be turned on and off at will – it just happens, you find someone attractive.
Bisexuality isn’t liking dudes one day and girls the next, and you can’t suddenly decide to dial down your attraction to one gender or another.
If you’re thinking of having an open relationship for a while then allow it to be fully open – so far the ‘ajar relationship’ style hasn’t caught on and that’s probably for a reason. In general, too many clauses makes the agreement convoluted.
If you’ve got a problem to do with sex, relationships or anything Prude-ish, send in your question to Prudence at: firstname.lastname@example.org
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