Talk to Prudence: how to liven things up long-distance?

Mystified by monogamy? Lost in the lingerie aisle? Confused by kinks or struggling with sex in general? Our resident agony aunt Prudence offers answers to PRUDE readers’ problems, to help direct and soothe, or at least make you laugh…

Q. How can I turn the heat up in a long-distance relationship?

A. Get old school and write a letter. Yes the post is slow and the price of stamps is an even better mark of inflation than the trusty Freddo, but a saucy haiku or a cheeky message written on a postcard, penned in your own hand, is much more personal (and therefore sexier) than a kissy face emoji over WhatsApp. 

Or send them a present every now and again. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, just something that reminds them of you – novelty underwear is always joyous, or perhaps something that you can use together when you see each other next. Maybe put a puzzle or a riddle in the letters/messages you send, or get a cheeky little innuendo-hangman going. 

You could also read erotica together. This can either be genuinely arousing if you pick things that are well-written, or simply entertainment if you deliberately pick terrible stuff (Amazon has a range, and goodreads has compiled a handy list).  

Zoom sex is also an option, but is cringingly buffer-some and uncomfortable unless you’re completely trolleyed, so maybe do it over the phone instead.

If you’ve got a problem to do with sex, relationships or anything Prude-ish, send in your question to Prudence at: ukprude@anonymous

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