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Mystified by monogamy? Lost in the lingerie aisle? Confused by kinks or struggling with sex in general? Our resident agony aunt Prudence offers answers to PRUDE readers’ problems, to help direct and soothe, or at least make you laugh…
Q. Help! This girl I met on Hinge has a rule of ‘nothing til the fifth date’. Obviously, I’m a horny bastard – I’m on Hinge. Do I wait?
A. If there’s chemistry, see how long you can hold out. The neo-Victorian chastity dance could build anticipation and even make things more exciting as long as it’s not taken too seriously. Alternatively, you may find out that these rules are flexible – a kind of test. Once you pass by being a nice person, the five-date rule won’t be so strict, and something might happen sooner.
When it comes to sex, remember that you’re not trying to unlock the next level like on some fleshy Minecraft, you’re responding and relating to a person, and hopefully having a nice time. But realistically, it is Hinge – dating apps do have an inbuilt promise of quick satisfaction, so if you are put off by the fact that this person has set such a rule, politely move on.
If you’ve got a problem to do with sex, relationships or anything Prude-ish, send in your question to Prudence at: ukprude@gmail.com
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