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Porn stars are people we go to in times of need. Be it a dry spell, a quiet Sunday afternoon or a fifteen-minute gap between lectures, they offer a welcome reminder that someone, somewhere is having a better day.
But has it ever occurred to you that these gladiators we glimpse between cracks on phone screens may actually be the keepers of untold knowledge?
There’s more to sex than looking good on camera though, so we can’t take these performers at face value without understanding what’s really going on in the bedroom.
PRUDE spoke to performers Polite Boy London of JustFor.Fans and Limpbottoms of OnlyFans to find out their thoughts on some classic sex myths and misconceptions.
Acclaimed writer and sex educator Gigi Engle helped back them up. She’s a certified member of the World Association of Sex Coaches and added to our stars’ practical experiences with her own advice on how to get the most out of sex.
I need to be loud during sex
Polite Boy London: “Most of the noise that I make is natural. I make noise when I’m having sex for pleasure, so I don’t see the need to change that for work. Sometimes if the other guy is a bit quieter, I will try and compensate for that but generally I try and keep things natural.”
Limpbottoms: “The goal is to be loud but also believable, although I’m pretty loud usually so it’s not so much of an issue. But in positions where I don’t normally feel that much, like when I’m on top, I’ll still be very vocal.”
Gigi Engle: “It’s OK to be nervous. Everyone is a little self-conscious about themselves during sex, from the way they look to the way they smell to the sounds they make.
“Just try to enjoy the experience, stay in the moment, and make the noises that feel most natural to you. Using moans, words etc. can also be helpful to indicate what is working and what isn’t working for a partner. So, if something feels really good, let your partner know with some noise.”
We appear to have a consensus from our various sex experts here. Noise is good, but there’s no need to force it.
Conclusion: MYTH
Lube is optional for anal sex
Polite Boy London: “It depends on the situation really. You don’t want too much on camera so generally you would just try and apply a little before penetration.”
Limpbottoms: “I actually don’t need to lube up that much because I use a good silicone-based lube. But also I use loads for work, way more than I would for personal sex, because it makes everything easier.”
Gigi Engle: “Lube is an ESSENTIAL component of anal penetration. The anus doesn’t lube up on its own like vagina. Not using lube can cause tearing, anal fissures, and pain.
“You cannot use too much lube, but you can use too little. So, when you’re using lube, be generous! The wetter the better when it comes to putting things up the bum.”
More agreement from porn and science.
Conclusion: MYTH
You have to douche before anal sex
Polite Boy London: “I am always completely douched for an anal scene. I can’t feel comfortable unless I am absolutely completely clean. Ideally I would ask the same of anyone I’m shooting with. I wouldn’t be rude or unpleasant if it was a little bit messy but I think it’s professional that you turn up clean and shaved and douched for a scene.”
Limpbottoms: “I keep my ass clean and stick to a high-fibre diet, so I avoid processed things and I try to stick to beans, pulses, legumes and whole meal bread and pasta. I avoid hot sauce at all costs. I douche as little as possible because it’s not great for your body, I don’t eat on a filming day and I drink plenty of water.”
Gigi Engle: “Feeling clean before anal can be a huge part of feeling comfortable, which you need to be in order to relax the bum and allow things to penetrate in a pleasurable way. You can clean up by taking a shower before and having a bowel movement within three hours of play.
“You can douche if you want to and if it would make you feel more comfortable, but it is not essential. The thing is, poop happens. You’re going up the way poo comes out. You might contact a bit of poo and that’s just the way the game is played. We’re all human and it’s totally normal.”
A slight butting of heads from our porn stars there, but generally the consensus is clear: you do you pal. Douching is great if it makes you feel comfortable, but it’s not essential.
Conclusion: MYTH
Hitting it and quitting it is entirely acceptable
Polite Boy London: “After a scene I don’t have a set routine, it’s always nice if you can go for a drink with the guy you’ve been shooting with. If it’s been a long day I often haven’t eaten much beforehand so actually I quite like getting food.”
Gigi Engle: “Couples who practice aftercare will naturally develop closer, more intimate bonds with their partners than those who don’t. After sex, we’re particularly vulnerable. We’re naked, we’ve (hopefully) just had an orgasm, and our bodies are awash in oxytocin and dopamine.
“We need to ensure that a positive state of mind continues. Everyone feels good when they know their partner cares for them, and what better way to show it than tending to them when they are in a vulnerable post-sex state of mind?
“Prioritising aftercare provides space to improve emotional intimacy, sharing and validating positive emotions. It really encourages couples to share open communication and express love and kindness towards each other either verbally or through affectionate touch.”
Conclusion: MYTH
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